It was a long weekend.
All my romanticism regarding weddings and marriage was blown out of the water long ago, but I still like attending weddings. I try to be gracious about it, but it's a bit of a sport these days. And why not? It's a big life event, if you choose to do it publicly. But for every bride that's whined about how stressed out she is over her $20k affair, there's 10 guests lurking in the shadows, waiting to critize her hors d'ouvres, her dress, her table settings, whatever. Put yourself on show like that and it's human nature, I suppose.
I've taken the position recently that wedding guests are too critical. I've been advising everyone to just shut up and be nice. However.
If you're going to bother with having a wedding, which is a public ceremony of civil and/or religious significance to which one may choose to invite family and friends, the least you can do is make it bearable. Like for instance, not leaving guests to stand out glaring sun in 90+ degree weather for over an hour with no water available and no place to go while you take photos. Or maybe use your brilliant restauranteur savvy we've all heard about and go ahead and hire a wait staff for your reception at your own restaurant, so your mothers and a few volunteer guests who weren't expecting to have to work don't have to do everything. Or have running water available at the reception? Or maybe just wipe down the tables before people are forced to sit down and ruin their nice clothes?
And at the end of all that, since everyone bothered to deal with all this for the sake of your public affirmation of your private commitment, you should actually be married. You know, with the license and everything? Otherwise, it was a waste of time and money, at least for the guests. Who could have been at the pool.
I've taken the position recently that wedding guests are too critical. I've been advising everyone to just shut up and be nice. However.
If you're going to bother with having a wedding, which is a public ceremony of civil and/or religious significance to which one may choose to invite family and friends, the least you can do is make it bearable. Like for instance, not leaving guests to stand out glaring sun in 90+ degree weather for over an hour with no water available and no place to go while you take photos. Or maybe use your brilliant restauranteur savvy we've all heard about and go ahead and hire a wait staff for your reception at your own restaurant, so your mothers and a few volunteer guests who weren't expecting to have to work don't have to do everything. Or have running water available at the reception? Or maybe just wipe down the tables before people are forced to sit down and ruin their nice clothes?
And at the end of all that, since everyone bothered to deal with all this for the sake of your public affirmation of your private commitment, you should actually be married. You know, with the license and everything? Otherwise, it was a waste of time and money, at least for the guests. Who could have been at the pool.
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